How many kids should you have??


Having children is truly a gift, and it’s difficult to answer this question of how many children you want or you should have. In my opinion, life is something that you cannot decide on, and I say this because I have seen people that want children and they cannot have them; also I have seen others who are “planning” to not have kids and their planning methods failed and they get pregnant. Parents are co-creators; we are participants of life’s miracle: We give our children our genes, blood type, eye color, hair color, we choose their names and all that, but their SOUL is only imposed by God. This is just my opinion and I really respect yours, I just want to express what I believe. We should receive all the kids that God wants to send us, and receive them with love, taking good care of them, give them a family. This does not mean that we fall into irresponsible parenthood and bring children to this world and then not give them what they need. What our children need is love, affection, and support from their parents. They do not need tons of toys nor tons of money to be happy, they need a family to be there for them, to encourage them, to believe in them. I invite you to ask yourselves: Are you trying your best with your children? Are you giving them everything that they need? Congratulations!! I am sure that if you are reading this article it’s because you’re searching for ways to learn more about parenting every day. Unfortunately, children do not come with instructions or anyone has had a rehearsal before or took classes to get prepared to become a parent.

We learn with the practice day by day and all of this blog is only to share ideas and thoughts about parenting, that’s why I invite you to share my blog with your friends and family.

Do you want more kids??

This is the type of question that I’m already used to… I’ve been asked many times if I want more children so here is my answer: My husband and I have been together for 12 years and at the very beginning we decided to not have any more babies after our first son, Isaac (11 years old), since we were a young couple who struggled a lot due to our immaturity and since we were so young (my husband was 20 and I was just 18). Things turned around after we found that parenting is really a gift, that life is a miracle; we have seen many couples that wished with all their hearts to become parents and they just can’t, they’d try many things to get pregnant and nothing. So we, that have the opportunity, why were we denying ourselves to be parents again and to our boy to be a big brother since he was constantly asking for a sibling and we just only got   him a dog. The dog was his happiness for a short time, then a little bit after  he felt alone and sad again… Diego and I were not feeling so good about the dog as his company, this is why we asked God to give us a baby girl and He gave us Kylie (6 years old) who came to make us a family of 4 and bring a lot of joy to us, especially to her brother. After Kylie, 2 more arrived to our lives. Emily, (4 years old) and baby Maria Jose (8 months old). We are so happy and grateful to have our 4 little ones. We love children and we are open to life. This means that at any time we’re open to having another kid but for now we are enjoying our 4 great treasures. Every day we try to make it special for them, building memories together. Right now we do not have the time to be thinking about more babies, at this very moment we are just perfect being a family of 6.  What about you? Would you like to have more babies? Or are you planning to get pregnant soon?

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Tener hijos verdaderamente es el regalo mas grande que la vida te puede dar, y es muy dificil responder a la pregunta de cuantos hijos quieres o debes tener ya que en mi opinion por mas que tu quieras es algo en lo que uno no puede decidir y lo digo porque sin duda hemos conocido parejas que quieren hijos y no pueden tenerlos otros que se “cuidan” para no tenerlos varias veces les fallan los metodos y los tienen. La vida es un don y los padres somos participes de este don ya que somos co-creadores; les damos a nuestros hijos nuestros genes, tipo de sangre, color de ojos, cabello, el apellido, les escogemos el nombre y todo; pero lo mas importante EL ALMA solo se la impone Dios y es por eso que mi opinion es que nosotros podemos tener los hijos que Dios nos mande recibirlos con mucho amor y ayudarlos para que en la vida sean personas de bien, esto no quiere decir que caigamos en una paternidad irresponsible y traer niños para despues no darles el amor, el cariño y todo el esfuerzo que necesitan de parte de sus padres. Les invito a que se pregunten a si mismos? Si estan haciendo su mayor esfuerzo con nuestros hijos?  Les estamos dando todo lo “necesario” pero que este “necesario” no se quede solo con cosas materiales, ellos son mucho mas que todo eso. Estoy segura que si estas leyendo este articulo es porque si lo estas haciendo porque quieres aprender a ser mejor cada dia. Te felicito estas haciendolo muy bien,  por esto te invito a que compartas mi blog con tus amigos y familiares

¿Quieres más hijos?
Este es el tipo de pregunta al que ya estoy acostumbrada … Me han preguntado muchas veces si quiero tener más hijos, así que aquí está mi respuesta: Mi esposo y yo hemos estado juntos durante 12 años y desde el principio decidimos no tener más bebés después de nuestro primer hijo, Isaac (11 años), ya que éramos una pareja joven con varias dificultades  debido a nuestra inmadurez (mi esposo tenía 20 años y yo solo 18). Las cosas cambiaron después de que descubrimos que la crianza de los hijos es realmente un regalo, que la vida es un milagro; habiamos madurado un poco ya con Isaac y ademas habiamos visto muchas parejas alrededor de nosotros que  deseaban con todo su corazón ser en padres y no podian, intentaban muchas cosas para quedar en embarazo y nada! Veiamos que nosotros, teniamos la bendicion de tener hijos entonces…¿por qué nos negabamos a ser padres nuevamente y a nuestro hijo ser el hermano mayor?

De hecho Isaac nos venia  pidiendo un hermanito  y nosotros solo le conseguimos un perro!

El perro era su felicidad por un corto tiempo, luego volvia sentirse solo y triste otra vez … Diego y yo no nos sentíamos tan bien con el perro como  compañía de Isaac, por eso le pedimos a Dios que nos regalara una niña y recibimos a  Kylie (6 años) ella vino a convertirnos en una familia de 4, nos trajo mucha alegría, especialmente a su hermano. Después de Kylie, 2 más llegaron a nuestras vidas. Emily, (4 años) y la bebé Maria Jose (8 meses). Estamos muy felices y agradecidos de tener a nuestros 4 pequeños. Amamos a los niños y estamos abiertos a la vida. Esto significa que en cualquier momento podriamos tener otro hijo, pero por ahora estamos disfrutando de nuestros 4 grandes tesoros. Cada dia tratamos de hacerlo especial para ellos, construyendo recuerdos juntos. En este momento no tenemos tiempo para pensar en más bebés, por ahora estamos perfectos como una familia de 6. ¿Y tu? ¿Te gustaría tener más bebés? O ¿Está planeando quedar en embarazo pronto? 

Published by Gaby Granda

Hi, my name is Gaby, proud latina I was born and raised in my home country Ecuador but I found my happily ever after 12 years ago at New Jersey, his name is Diego and together we have 4 wonderful children. I'll be jumping into my 30s pretty soon, I am a mom and wife 24/7, part-time worker, and blogging is my ultimate hobby. Questions, recommendations, and opinions are more than welcome please leave me a message, I would love to hear from you.

2 thoughts on “How many kids should you have??

  1. Beautiful mi Gabby, thanks for sharing your experience and congratulations on your blog and first post, Im sure this will be wonderful and you will accomplish great things as all the other wonderful goals you have set for yourself. I wish many blessings for you and that the blog will help many people in parenting and all the topics you want to mention.

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